So just over a week ago, I turned the ripe old age of 23. While I do feel excitement for the future, the age of 23 has brought to light a few fears. Fears, about the life goals that I want to achieve breathing down my neck. These range from wanting to save to buy a house, making progress career-wise, and just generally having my shit together as an adult. However, putting all that aside, I wanted to reflect on the things that I have learnt about myself in the past year and bring back some positivity.
I CAN SAY NO
This past year I have come to the realisation that I can say no. I was always worried that by saying no it would mean that I was letting someone down terribly, and therefore they would no longer like me. What I realised was that by saying yes to every single favour, it meant that I was actually letting myself down. Sometimes it is okay to go with your gut feeling of ‘I don’t want to’. By doing that you are actually looking after yourself, which is just as important as looking after other people. Of course, I will always continue to help people, but if I can’t walk someone’s dog one day, or I can’t alter their trousers because I’m busy, doesn’t mean I should spend the next few days feeling guilty about it.
This point follows the same sort of line as point number 1 and it is something that I am still working on. Throughout my life, I never really have spoken up when I disagreed with someone. The main reason that this has changed is through the influence of my boyfriend. He is a very honest person, and if there’s one thing I admire most about him is that he stands by his beliefs and he speaks up when it counts. I, on the other hand, would rather dig a 10-foot hole and stay down it. However, slowly but surely, when I have found myself disagreeing in conversations, or uncomfortable in social situations, I have been able to speak up. In the past, I didn’t feel confident enough to get the words out my mouth. I think that now I am older my personal values have become clearer and confirmed in my mind, which has meant that I am more comfortable expressing them. The phrase “another year older, another year wiser” does come to mind.
FASHION IS IMPORTANT TO ME
This point is a little less heavy than the ones before, (I apologise for that).
When life gets busy I don’t always get the opportunity or time to continue every single hobby. However, fashion is one of the major things that brings me joy and sparks creativity. For the past couple of years, I definitely let it drop to the back of my mind and I forgot how much I truly enjoy it. Recently, I have felt extremely inspired. I am now more determined than ever not to lose my way again and just live in t-shirts and leggings.
EXERCISE MAKES ME FEEL POSITIVE
For a few years now I have been working on becoming fitter and healthier. Over this past year, I think I have made real progress in making sure I exercise consistently. Not only did I lose a few pounds, but I actually feel so much better mentally. Now I have made it a habit; I really notice a difference in my mood when I miss a few sessions. Fitness for me is the key to keeping myself in a positive mindset, and I really love to challenge myself. Hopefully, I’ll be able to do five proper push-ups soon (my arms are so weak)!
So, that’s my round up of the things I have been reflecting on recently. Let me know how you feel about growing up, and if there is anything new you’ve learnt about yourself. I’d be interested to know!